–>Trusting God in Your single season<–
Imagine being in a hot and dry desert. Your lips are cracked and parched due to thirst and your stomach is rumbling due to hunger. You look around, but don’t see any water or trees for shade miles around. The skin on your face is scorched due to you not having a covering on your head. It’s not that you weren’t offered a covering at the beginning of your journey. The people who led the tour knew that you would need one and continued to offer it to you. However, you aggressively denied what you can now clearly see you desperately needed. What’s worse is that you fought tooth and nail to bring what YOU thought was an adequate covering to shield you from the burning sun.
You didn’t know the conditions were going to be this bad, you say. You didn’t know that it was going to get this hot, but the tour guides knew. How often do we do this with God? He knows exactly what protection we need, what covering we need, but we refuse the one that He offers. We refuse even His own protection! We live our life without His covering—without His blessing!
“It is better to take refuge in the LORD
Than to trust in man.
It is better to take refuge in the LORD
Than to trust in princes.”
This one is mostly for my single ladies, because I know that as a woman God does not just provide us with one form of covering. No, for women He makes sure that they have multiple coverings! There is a reason for this. Throughout my walk of being single, I’ve learned that I cannot live my life without a covering. I learned that I cannot live my life as a single woman without submitting to God, so I can receive His blessing. Sometimes we can be stubborn and not want to listen to doing things God’s way. Yet what I noticed in most single women is that they will not listen to God in areas and avenues in their singleness, but they still want to obtain the covering of a husband! They ask God over and over for a husband, but will not let God give them the real covering that is required in singleness and marriage—His hand being upon their life.
Sisters, know that you cannot have a husband without fully trusting and believing in your first husband, God. How can you trust that the man God sent is going to do what he said he was going to do, if you don’t even trust what God said He is going to do? How can you trust that the man God’s sends will be your covering if you don’t trust in your first and only covering in your singleness—God? How can you submit to someone who is supposed to represent Christ in a relationship, if you don’t even submit fully to Christ now?!
“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.”
You can say you fully trust God, but if you don’t really believe in it you’ll be stressed out and in fear, worry, and doubt all the time about whether or not things will even work out in your marriage. Do you not know that you will have to depend on Him even more during courtship and marriage? How can one thrive in a marriage and courtship when they struggle to trust God with their dreams, degrees, work, and everyday tasks?! You can hardly trust God in your single season, so how much harder will it be to trust what His word says about another person, your husband, when you move into your married season?
Before you get married God wants to know you intimately as a single because when you get married God is going to need you to be more intimate with Him than you are going to be with your husband. God is and always will be the number one ‘man’ in your life. Give Him this time in your singleness while you still have it. Cherish Him, trust Him with everything.
Don’t ever live without His covering.